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Raindrops on a Windshield…

This afternoon, as I was driving home in the rain, I noticed something different about me. You know, it’s not too often when you actually have an “aha” moment about yourself. Learning new things about ourselves is actually a pretty important part of growing, and it can be very revealing sometimes.

When I very first learned to drive (almost twenty years ago), whenever it rained, I almost always turned my windshield wipers on immediately. Not only did I turn them on, but I turned them on as fast as they would go, because I didn’t want my vision impaired. I wanted, no needed to see the road. Little did I realize just how distracting those wipers were, going back and forth, back and forth, over and over again.

What I realized today, is somewhere along these past few years, I have learned to look through a lot of the raindrops before I reach to turn on the windshield wipers. Then, when I do reach down to turn them on, I almost always start at the very slowest setting. In fact, I enjoy watching the rain fall and bead up on my windshield. I still have my eyes on the road. I’m still focused. I understand there are lines drawn there, and those lines are my boundaries and my guidelines to get safely from one place to the next.

Looking through these raindrops today, as I had my “aha” moment, my moment of clarity if you will, I learned something about myself. I’m more confident than I used to be. I’m not more confident, because I think I can drive safe without using my wipers as much as I used to. No, I’m more confident as a person, because I have started looking through other obstacles in my life as well.

Keeping your eye on the prize, or what you want out of life is not always easy to do. In fact, it is extremely easy to get distracted, sometimes on a daily basis. Getting sidetracked by whatever distraction happens this day, or yesterday, or whatever may happen tomorrow happens to all of us at some point in our lives. What we do about it next, is what makes a real difference.


First of all, you must remember that not all distractions are bad distractions. There are plenty of obstacles you will come across that will bless you ten-fold. There are some things that are just slightly annoying, but can be easily overlooked, or looked through, and you can keep moving in a forward, or more positive direction.

Sometimes, a distraction can bring your life to an absolute dead halt. These obstructions in our life can be detrimental to how we feel, how we behave, how we treat others in life. You must be very careful when dealing with these things. If you know of someone going through what can only be characterized as a monumental distraction, you must deal with them accordingly. Every one of us behaves differently, because we are wired differently. We have different DNA. Some people deal with a small amount of stress with no problem at all. Some people flip out if the mailman is seven minutes later than their “usual” time.

If you are having a monumental distraction in your life, it is important to turn on your windshield wipers, if you will. In fact, sometimes not only do you need to turn them on at full-speed, but you may also need to pull over to the side of the road and wait it out. By waiting it out, it may mean to lean on a friend. Lean on a co-worker. Pray about it. Maybe no matter what, you can’t find an answer to why it is why you’re going through something. Whatever it is, just know that unless you’re living in a tropical rain forest somewhere, that the rain will stop eventually. The sun will rise again, and you will be able to move forward. The progression may not be in the same direction. In fact, the progression may actually be a regression because you were going about something the wrong way.

Life doesn’t have easy answers. Life is NOT fair. If it was, we’d all be sipping pina coladas on a beach somewhere.

However, there are plenty of times in our lives, where we may panic, we may put our wipers on full-speed, and we don’t need to. Sometimes, obstacles are a great way to learn new things, new ideas, and maybe even learn about other people. Maybe a particular person, is now a very particular obstacle. If so, try to find the good in that person. Weigh it, along with the bad, and see if it evens out. If not, well, it’s up to you on what to do. Like I said, we’re all wired differently. If your job is your obstacle, still go to work. It’s the responsible thing to do. Really, it is. Going to work at a dead-end job, or one that you may feel is “beneath” you, is in fact the opposite of what it may feel like. It should give you POWER, to know that you are doing something uncomfortable, for the benefit of you and your FAMILY. Do it. Look elsewhere, educate yourself, and get that better job when you can.

Until then, look through the raindrops, watch the lines in the road, and slowly reach down to occasionally move the rain out of the way. Just remember, no matter what you believe in, who you believe in, that there are people in this world that are counting on you. There always are. You may not know them, you may not ever even meet them, but they may very well look up to you. Show them that you are every bit of the person that they think you are. Be your own windshield wiper, wipe away the bad, and concentrate on your lane. You do that, my friends, and weights will be lifted off of your shoulders, and the rain will slowly start to disappear…



Hello. I'm a 38 year-old husband and proud father of five children (all of which are girls). In addition to writing this blog, our family has a YouTube channel, called BaileyLiving.

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